So, you and your best man have never taken a course in public speaking. In fact, you've never even given a speech before. Well, that is just not an excuse in the world of weddings. Here are a some tips for you and your best man, just in case you want to yell "cheers", and then sit down.

• If you are not the Groom, first thing you might want to do is announce your relationship to the bride and groom. Some people may not know.

• Think about what you are going to say and try to make it meaningful. If you think you may forget what you want to say, write it down on a note card and bring it with you.

• Use a microphone if you are not a loud speaker. There are people in the back and grandpa's hearing is not what it used to be. So speak up and speak clearly.

• Don't tell inside jokes. If only 15 out of 100 people know what you are talking about, then keep it to yourself. Also, if you a mention a person that many people don't know, make sure to clarify their relationship to you such as, "Michael, my cousin".

• Back characteristics up by using an example. For instance, "This couple is so adventurous. Did you know that on their first date they went bungee jumping?" This keeps the audience's interest, but also makes the speech more memorable.

• If you are not sure of what to say in your toast, consider buying some books on wedding speeches. You can find some great wedding speech & toast books at your local bookstore.

• Pick just a few points to talk about. Try not to give a speech going down a list of generic terms, such as, "My wife is beautiful, smart, generous, compassionate, caring, humorous, etc, etc." Pick 2 or 3 points that you want the audience to come away with and take the time to develop them.

• Don't make negative remarks. It is not a good idea to finish your toast by saying, "Here's to the new couple. Let's hope they don't end in bitter divorce like I did." Another no-no is to make negative remarks about someone's appearance or personality. For instance, calling the groom a "womanizer" (kidding or not) is not a good way to commemorate the day.

• Try using some humor to keep your speech interesting and light. It will help to keep the guests attention and have them laughing and asking for more.

• Practice, practice and practice even more. In order to look spontaneous, fluent and a great orator you have to put in some effort. It is important to practice your speech before the mirror or an audience and become comfortable with the words. It is not a job interview, it's a wedding.

• Most importantly, remember to KISS - Keep It Short & Simple! Limit your speech to 3 or 4 minutes. Everyone would like to get the party started.
  

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